Hope you are having a lovely week. As you know, this week is Father’s Day and it’s all about honoring fathers this week. I didn’t think I would write a post about this holiday because I’m not typically a publicly mushy person. When you’re done reading you’ll probably even think to yourself “is that is her idea of mushy?”. Maybe so, maybe not.
When I look back at the early years of life, I remember that they weren’t the best. My father and I have never really been close because of that past but I do care for him and love him very much. I know he loves me too. We just have a different kind of love, a quiet love. Regardless of the type of relationship we have, I’ve tried recently to focus on the fact that as long as we’re both alive our relationship can continue to improve. Time passes by so quickly and I refuse to be hung up on the things that upset me or that I don’t like. It’s so easy to look at all the ways things could have been better but I want to live for today and not yesterday.
Here are a few things about my dad
1. If it wasn’t for my dad, I would not have the hair I’ve been blessed with. It’s my favorite physical quality for sure. Yes it’s annoying at time but mostly I love it. I have pictures of my dad as a teenager and his hair was long, shiny, thick, wavy and just beautiful. His hair was probably longer than my hair has ever been.
3. He taught me to be a hard worker. My dad has always been such a hard worker. Construction is hard physical labor and he never complained about having to do it to provide for us. He made sure we always had what we needed and sometimes was able to get us what we wanted. When there was no work, he wouldn’t come home until he found work. He didn’t do that for him, he did that for us.
4. My dad has a love for Mafia/Mobster movies. For this very reason so do I. You probably won’t believe me but as a teen the idea of being a real life mob wife was almost a life goal. Clearly I never got anywhere near accomplishing that goal.
5. He likes to cook. If you ever met my dad you would not think this but he does. I do have a harsh truth though, he doesn’t cook well. Oh he tries and he really thinks he does but it just…let’s leave it there. Although, he does have this ONE dish that is delicious, chicken tacos!
6. Major Fault Alert! Procrastinator…when it comes to household duties or home projects he procrastinates and mostly never finished anything. We used to give him a hard time about building these big beautiful homes yet not being able to complete anything at home. I have the same fault…why oh why?!?
7. My dad introduced me to Patsy Cline and for that I should forever be thankful. I still remember being about 11 or 12 and he brought home a cassette tape of Patsy Cline which I thought was so ridiculous. After listening, I was forever a fan. We also shared a love for Sinead O’Conner’s Nothing Compares to you. Music runs deep in our blood. Listening and enjoying music not to be mistaken with musical talent because that we do not have.
To those of you who also have this kind of imperfect father/daughter relationship, it’s ok. Take a moment to look for the good, think about the similarities you may share this week and they will make you laugh or at least make you smile. We grow up thinking we will learn from our dads but sometimes we’re there to teach them a thing or two. Showing love, teaches love. Aren’t we all imperfect anyway? Pick up that phone and share some love with your dad this week.
I’d love to here something you have in common with your father!