Oh my goodness…time really does fly by. This blog was started with high hopes of being consistent and to just rock it. Instead I’ve been trying to get through some hard times. My goals were pushed to the side.
This has been the worst year of my life but in a strange way also a really beautiful year. I’ve had to work through grief, feelings of depression, family drama and figuring how to get up and move forward. It has not been an easy thing but I continue to challenge myself everyday. Did I overcome it all? Not yet but I take it day by day.
Soooo I just want to say, I’m back!! I won’t make any promises but plan to really push through this hurdle and just have some fun on here. This is for me and you. Sharing what I make, things I try and the blissful treasures of life.
Let me share with you a few things I have re-learned through this season in my life. These aren’t earth shattering revelations you don’t already know. Every now and then we just need to be reminded.
6 Things Getting Me Through The Hard Times
- Only you control how you feel. It’s easy to blame our feelings on others and how we may have been treated. Sometimes we just become overwhelmed by sadness, anger or both. Bottom line is, bad things happen to us and around us all the time. We can’t change this. We can control how we feel though and how we react to these things. Take control of your feelings and work through them. Never give over the control and allow someone to have the power to dictate how you feel.
- It’s okay to just be. We pressure ourselves to “get better” quick. Others pressure us. Let me say this…It’s okay to just be. If you just need to cry, be sad and/or stay in your bed for the day, it’s okay! Some things take weeks, months and years to recover and work through. You’ll get there. Stop trying to be strong by putting on a mask for others….Just be what you need to be today.
- Therapy is for everyone. In my family and culture, we don’t do therapy. I mean, we aren’t crazy!! Guess what…therapy is for me. It’s for you. It’s for EVERYONE. I consider myself self aware and I knew when I was at a dangerous low. Seeing a therapist is one choice I will never regret. Learning health methods to work through my feelings and discovering the roots of why I feel or think the way I do continues to grow me. (Side note: Ladies, let’s not shame each others for going to a therapist or counselor. I have recently heard stories of people “secretly” going to counseling for fear of judgment and being shamed. Well, shame on those who make others feel small for this. If you are going to a counselor or thinking of it, consider me your biggest cheerleader. You rock and bravo for you finding the courage to learn more about yourself and how you can grow to be a healthier you.)
- You need your people. Coming from someone who doesn’t really have much family….friends have been such a huge part of me getting through this year. It has surprised me to see who has really been there with me. Yes, you’ll have those who grow tired of your “situation” and want you to move on already. This doesn’t mean they don’t care about you, they may just not know what to do or what to say to make you feel better. But the others who help you stand when you feel like you can’t stand…those are your people. Love them and never let go. I love all the people in my life but I have to say some relationships have really grown this year. I’ve been surprised by all the wisdom some of these ladies have poured into my life. They are truly helping make me a better person and I cherish them.
- Choose Happiness. Make this daily choice. Enough said.
- The story doesn’t end here. I love this statement my counselor said to me as I cried about how I felt my this situation was just the end of me. She smile and said ” Jessica, the story doesn’t end here.” In that moment, I got so much hope and when I feel tired and discouraged, I say this to myself. The story doesn’t end here and I cant wait to see what the future holds.
I hope this encourages that woman who is struggling right now with life. I’m here with you and I walk next to you cheering you on. You will get through this. You will grow and be stronger because of this season in your life.